As the daughter of the late casino tycoon Stanley Ho, He Chaolian’s love life has always drawn public attention. Her romantic history has been closely tied to the entertainment industry, and every one of her past partners has been a blend of talent and good looks.
Her first known relationship dates back to 2011. At just 20 years old, He Chaolian actively pursued her idol, singer Kenji Wu, who was 11 years her senior. She even attended his autograph sessions as a fan and often visited him on set, accompanying him late into the night. However, Kenji’s insistence on “staying single” ultimately led to their breakup due to differing views on marriage. After their split, He Chaolian admitted to feeling “hurt,” though she still kept their photos together.
Later, she was rumored to be involved with Fok Kai Shan, the second son of Hong Kong’s prominent Fok family—her only non-celebrity relationship. The two were spotted attending a concert together, but the relationship fizzled out quickly, likely due to the complexities of their family backgrounds. This experience seemed to strengthen her preference for dating within the entertainment industry.
In 2016, she was again rumored to be dating actor Kai Ko. At the time, Kai was making his comeback after a controversy, and the two were photographed dining together late at night. Though never confirmed, the rumor reinforced her well-known fondness for “handsome bad-boy” types.
It wasn’t until 2019, when her relationship with actor Dou Xiao became public, that many felt she had finally “met the right one.” Dou Xiao, tall and charismatic, was already well-known for works like Princess Agents and for his sunny personality. The two met at a brand event, and Dou Xiao asking for her WeChat was described by He as “a fated moment.”
Looking back at He Chaolian’s past relationships, three patterns emerge. First, appearance matters—from Kenji Wu to Dou Xiao, her partners have all been strikingly handsome. Second, she values talent—she’s consistently drawn to men accomplished in music or film. Third, she is proactive in love—He doesn’t wait passively but takes the initiative to pursue who she likes, breaking the stereotype of a “reserved heiress.”
On the other hand, Dou Xiao’s romantic history also reflects a tendency toward “equal backgrounds.” His ex-girlfriend Cheng Xiaoyue comes from an elite Shanghai family, with her mother having served as a Dior Greater China executive. His rumored romance with Nana Ouyang stemmed from their collaboration in To the Fore, while his brief relationship with actress Janine Chang was often described as a “perfect match in temperament.” All these women share strong family backgrounds and independent personalities.
This similarity in values made Dou Xiao and He Chaolian’s relationship seem almost inevitable. Having grown up in Canada, Dou Xiao shares an international outlook that aligns with He’s global perspective. As an actor, he benefits from stability and connections—areas where her background naturally provides support. After their relationship became public, Dou Xiao’s commercial value rose noticeably, securing multiple luxury brand endorsements.
More importantly, their relationship is mutually supportive, not dependent. He Chaolian has emphasized, “What I want isn’t just a title, but love that understands me.” Dou Xiao responded publicly, “I love her for who she is.” She runs her own beef noodle business, achieving financial independence, while he invests in film and dining ventures to build his career portfolio. Together, they co-manage a dessert shop and a streetwear brand, showcasing harmony in both romance and business.
Despite occasional breakup rumors, the couple often dispels speculation through public appearances and online interactions, maintaining trust through action. Unlike her sister He Chaoyun, whose relationship once faced family opposition, Dou Xiao has reportedly earned the approval of He’s mother, Chan Wai Chun (Stanley Ho’s third wife), even attending family gatherings multiple times.
Among many “heiress love stories,” the relationship between He Chaolian and Dou Xiao feels refreshingly real. She continues to value talent and charm, while he has found a partner to grow with. Their love balances romance and reason—proving, as netizens say, that “more than matching backgrounds, a meeting of souls is the most luxurious kind of love.”
